Is it me, or is it spirit?
It’s the million‑dollar question every intuitive person asks — and one that every medium continues to revisit throughout their development. Yes, the spirit world is all around us.
Yes, we can all heighten our sensitivities to touch that great power — whether for inspiration, guidance, healing, messages, or hope.
But the spirit world gets blamed for a lot of things it has absolutely nothing to do with.
I often hear people say, “Spirit told me,” or “Spirit encouraged me,” or “Spirit said…” And while the spirit world can inspire and nudge us, we also need to use logic and reason.
We can inspire ourselves. We can encourage each other. Our presence, our words, our actions — and our inactions — impact the world around us.
And then there’s the other side of it: the “spooky” experiences people attribute to spirit.
I used to do it too.
Before I was properly trained — before I learned how to sit in the power of my own spirit and the spirit world — I used to run what I called “ghost encounter events.” They were essentially mediumship demonstrations held in venues with reputations for ghostly activity. And honestly? They were a LOT of fun.
People felt sensations.
Lights flickered.
Doors swung.
Pictures moved.
And I was giving verifiable information about the history of the venue and messages from loved ones in spirit. It felt incredible.
Then I went to my first proper mediumship boot camp. Within minutes, one of the teachers said, “You have a lot of potential… but you’re not working with the spirit world. You’re working psychically — with the occasional gentle touch of spirit.”
It was humbling. But it was also the truth I needed. I realised I had to unlearn everything I thought I knew about the spirit world and start again.
So I did.
I learned to sit in the power.
To recognise my own energy.
To feel the difference between psychic and mediumistic states.
To build a link with intelligence — not imagination.
I started my own development circle, following strict discipline:
If the evidence wasn’t a clear yes, it was a no. No stretching. No making it fit. No being kind to me. No guessing. No “close enough.” Just discipline.
And through years of training with respected teachers, I finally understood what had been happening at my ghost events.
The flickering lights? The sensations? The movement? It wasn’t spirit. It was psychic energy.
My enthusiasm — combined with the sensitivity of the people in the room — was activating everyone’s auric fields. The energy built up so strongly that it affected the environment. It looked like spirit phenomena, but it wasn’t the spirit world.
We know water conducts energy. We know magnetic fields can create sensations of presence. There’s a reason unusual experiences often happen on “dark and stormy nights.”
So here’s the controversial bit:
Not every unusual experience is the spirit world.
If you see someone working and the lights flicker or something odd happens, it’s far more likely to be psychic energy than spirit.
And that’s okay. It’s fascinating. It’s real. It’s just not mediumship. The spirit world has intelligence. There is a mind behind every communication.
It’s not random. It’s not chaotic. It’s not a party trick.
One of the greatest gifts I’ve received in my training is discernment — the ability to know what is spirit and what isn’t.
If I think something is psychic, I’ll tell you.
I will never pass off psychic experiences as mediumship. I respect the spirit world — and you — too much. So if you ever attended one of my ghost events, I’m glad you came. I’m glad you experienced interesting psychic phenomena. And I’m grateful for the journey that brought me to where I am now.
As Maya Angelou said, “You do your best until you know better. Then when you know better, you do better.”
And that’s exactly what I strive to do — every single day.