Mediumship: The Inside Job That Changed My Life
For many people, the development of a medium looks like a journey outward — reaching for something “higher,” “beyond,” or “out there.” But for me, the truth was the complete opposite. My development wasn’t about stretching toward the spirit world. It was about turning inward, sitting with myself, and allowing my own soul to rise.
It was, in every sense, an inside job.
Sitting With My Own Power
The most significant moments in my mediumship weren’t dramatic or mystical. They were quiet. Internal. Honest.
They came from sitting with my own power, feeling my own soul, and becoming aware of who I was beneath the carefully curated version of myself that the world saw — the version shaped by family expectations, friendships, work environments, and the roles I thought I had to play.
Mediumship didn’t just ask me to connect with the spirit world. It asked me to connect with me.
Facing Myself — And My Life — Honestly
As my sensitivity grew, so did my awareness of the relationships and dynamics that shaped me. I had to confront how I responded to the world, how I protected myself, and how I hid behind humour, sass, or a quick temper.
I went from being grumpy, reactive, loud, and short‑tempered…
to being reflective, attuned, and grounded.
That shift didn’t happen overnight. It came through uncomfortable honesty and a willingness to see myself clearly.
And with that clarity came change.
Letting Go of What Hurt Me
Some long‑standing friendships faded.
My marriage ended — an abusive relationship that needed to end before it destroyed me.
When my mother passed, I found the strength to step away from two siblings who had bullied and manipulated me for years.
These weren’t small decisions. They were life‑altering.
But they were necessary.
Mediumship didn’t just open the door to the spirit world.
It opened the door to self‑respect.
Rebuilding Myself From the Inside Out
Once I began choosing myself, everything shifted.
I lost weight.
I got laser eye surgery because I hated relying on glasses.
I moved into a home chosen entirely for me — no compromise.
I renovated it to reflect who I was becoming.
I stopped smoking.
I prioritised my health, my scans, my check‑ups.
I began trauma therapy to understand how my past shaped my reactions and relationships.
Every step was a declaration:
I matter.
My wellbeing matters.
My life matters.
And all of it — every change, every boundary, every act of courage — was triggered by my development as a medium.
If You Want to Be a Medium, Start With You
People often ask me how to become a medium, or how to strengthen their connection with the spirit world. And my answer is always the same:
Start on the inside.
Get your SELF in order.
Learn who you are beneath the noise.
Sit with your own soul.
Let your own power rise.
Recognise those parts of you that you CAN change (and do it).
Recognise those parts of you that you CAN’T change (and learn to accept them, the good and the not so great).
Life will still throw curveballs.
There will still be challenges, heartbreaks, disappointments.
But there will also be joy — real joy — when your self and your soul finally sing in harmony.
Mediumship isn’t about becoming something more.
Mediumship isn’t about reaching or grasping for something outside of you.
It’s about becoming more you.
And it’s worth it.